Recently i read "A 30 second story".
I reflected on the story several times that day and the days that follwed until this minute.
Felt that was specially meant for me.
Those 30 seconds touched me a lot.
This is the outcome of that impact.
I've been in the habit of shouting at people(or my close ones) when I am angry.
I shout when i am not heard or when i want to be heard.
I shout when i am helpless and my loved ones take time time to point out my mistake instead of helping my way out.
I shout when I am badly in need of some extra love and care and my need is ignored.
I shout to bring my people out of the dumbness in their reaction... when I very well know they can do much better.
At times , I shout at them for no reason... i want them to know that something/somebody has upset me badly.
May be i had not taken time to tell you all why I yelled at you .
I've always wanted you to understand thatit is one of the above reason that I am screaming.. and I never articulated why.
BUt this story brought it to a stop or at least reduced it considerably.
Here it is...Your 30 seconds!!
http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2012/01/09/30-sec-reading-why-do-we-shout-in-anger/
A master asked his disciples:
‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
the disciples thought for a while, and one of them said
‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’
‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’
The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.
Finally he explained:
‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’
Then the master asked:
‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’
And he concluded:
‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
‘They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.
‘Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
I dedicate this to two people i Love the most in my life and at whome I shout the worst..
Did i forget to mention something here..
Ha ha..Yes..
These two people take all liberty to shout/yell/scream/scold..just for one reason
They say "Your're Mine".
Here I conclude, I dont want to distance myself from you for those few seconds too..